Overthinking is a common human experience. You've been overthinking something, haven't you? It's just natural to overthink things. The trick is learning how to stop overthinking and focus on what matters most in life--not just for yourself but also for others around you.
Simply put, overthinking can best be described as your mind running endlessly on a hamster wheel, with nowhere to go—other than the worst possible situations, of course. And it’s not a skill to be proud of. Sleepless nights, obsessing over every detail, anxiousness, and restlessness, all come as part and parcel of being a chronic overthinker.
“Overthinking is most often used with a negative connotation—but put very simply, it is a protective mechanism,” Our bodies are wired to survive any danger. It’s just that our bodies cannot tell the difference between a life-threatening danger and one that’s not. So we react with the same intensity and feel anxious.”
According to her, anxiety is designed to alert us of danger. “This danger can also be experienced as something internal—overwhelming feelings and overthinking—it comes up to alert us so that we pay attention.” It’s human nature to want to be in control of things, especially the future. Overthinking about the future gives us that false sense of control—you think of every possible thing that can go wrong and over-prepare so that nothing goes wrong.
The Most Pervasive Problems in Chronic Overthinker
How to stop overthinking
Be aware of your thoughts.
Be aware of your feelings.
Be aware of your actions.
Be aware of your environment and surroundings, including people and things around you (including other people's bodies).
What is overthinking?
Overthinking is a common problem, and it can be a symptom of a problem. It can also be a problem if you're overthinking to the point where your mind can't focus on anything else. It's often associated with mental health issues such as anxiety or depression, but it doesn't have to be either one of those—your brain just needs some time off from thinking about things!
Overthinking is also sometimes called "ruminating." This means that you're going over and over something in your head until there's nothing left but thoughts about how stupid you feel when someone criticizes what you said (or didn't say), or how unfair life is because no one likes me anymore and then maybe even worse things happen when I think about them too much!
The many causes of overthinking
Overthinking is a natural part of the human experience. It's a symptom of other conditions, like depression or anxiety (which can lead to overthinking), but it's not necessarily an illness itself.
It’s also a coping mechanism: if you overthink something, you'll usually find yourself in a situation where you're trying to avoid dealing with the issue at hand by using your brain as an escape hatch.
Overthinking can be used as a way to avoid dealing with problems—but this doesn't mean there aren't any solutions! There are many ways of solving problems without having them fester and grow inside your head until they explode out of proportion. If these tactics don’t work for you and/or don’t seem effective enough for what needs fixing (like getting into college), then maybe we should talk about mental health issues instead.
Overthinking may be a coping mechanism.
Overthinking can be a way to avoid dealing with the real problem. If you're overthinking and you don't know what the real problem is, then it might be because your brain is trying to protect you from facing it.
When we are faced with something difficult or painful, our minds tend to go into overdrive so that we can avoid feeling those emotions or thinking about them—even if only for a few seconds at a time. In this case, dealing with your feelings in an attempt at figuring out how best to move forward helps keep them from overwhelming you entirely.
Why do people overthink?
Overthinking is a way to avoid facing the real world, your problems, and your mistakes.
How to stop overthinking yourself and others.
Here are some tips for coping with your chronic overthinking and how you can use it to help others.
Be assertive: If someone doesn't take the hint, ask them directly if they understand what you're trying to tell them or ask them point-blank if they want help figuring out a problem ("Is this something we should discuss?"). It's fine if someone doesn't want to be helped! You'll still get better at communicating in general over time, but this is one of those situations where saying something bluntly feels like the most direct approach.
And if people are resistant or defensive? Try again: "I'd love it if we could talk about this," instead of "Why won't he just listen?!" This way of speaking is also more likely to make people feel heard (and respected) than asking questions will—which is especially important since asking questions can sometimes feel manipulative or condescending without meaning any harm by so doing (e.,g., "Why do I always have such trouble getting my point across?").
There are ways to stop overthinking, but you have to be willing to change.
If you're a chronic overthinker, here's what you can do:
Don't overthink yourself. This might seem like a no-brainer, but it's not always easy to recognize when we're doing it or how to stop ourselves from being self-critical. Your thoughts are often based on your past experiences and how they relate to the present moment—but those aren't necessarily good indicators of what will happen next! The best way forward is by asking yourself questions instead of making assumptions about what would happen if this other thing happened or if I did this other thing differently (and then going through with those actions).
Stop thinking about people who have been hurt by others' actions; think about how those actions have affected them directly rather than focusing on whether or not someone else did something wrong (this will help reduce stress). It also helps if others understand that there are things beyond their control so they don’t feel guilty for things outside their power—for example, if someone has cancer and needs treatment right now while another person gets tested tomorrow instead because he doesn’t want his doctor seeing results until after treatment begins; both parties need support right now instead of waiting until sometime later."
So, if you’re a chronic overthinker—and the odds are good that you are—the first step may be admitting that you have a problem. But don’t despair: there are lots of techniques to help you stop overthinking yourself and others. We’ll cover some of them later on today; for now, just remember that what worked for me was realizing I had a problem, then taking steps to change my behavior. And please don’t hesitate to reach out if you need help with any aspect of this process: someone who has been through it all before will always be happy to lend an ear or offer advice on h